Advice- Ian answer's Abby's mail.

You can read what Abby had to say here. Sadly no one just emails me asking for help (hint hint) so I'm going to deliver a dose of reality to people looking for Abby's assistance.

DEAR ABBY: My son is the recipient of a four-year college scholarship with full tuition. He selected and applied to this school. The problem is, he now wants to transfer to another college. This means he would finish his sophomore year and give up two years of the scholarship.

The reason he has given us is "a lot of his friends go there." I have been upset over this to the point of tears. We're a working-class family that struggles to cover the cost of his dorm and his meals. My son says I'm being difficult. How does a parent handle this? -- THINKING AHEAD IN GADSDEN, ALA.

DEAR THINKING AHEAD: Has he applied for scholarships at this school? Have you threatened to withdraw funding? Have you threatened to shove him back where he came from? The last of these solutions is extreme, I know, and kind of uncomfortable for you--but would make a hilarious news story. If he's a smart guy he'll get scholarships at the new school, lay out the reality that he needs to get a job, and negotiate. Think of this as a chance to carve out the relationship you are going to have with your adult son. He's going to make mistakes, but they are his mistakes now--I'm not saying don't help him out but he needs subsidize the difference. Don't increase the support.

DEAR ABBY: I am 11 years old. My problem is my dad won't spend time with me. He always has friends over, or he's too tired. I have written letters to him to hang with me and how I feel. Now what should I do? -- LONELY GIRL IN MAINE

DEAR LONELY GIRL: Daddy issues, lonely, living in Maine? This is just a recipe for trouble (readers, you know what I'm talking about). Seek out help from your school, there are usually councilors or teachers who are there to help. You've made an effort with your father but you have to move on. Time to take matters in your own hands and join a club, a sports team, get active in something your father's interested in but don't rely on him. Be an independent powerful woman and stay off the streets.

DEAR ABBY: I work in a restaurant, and one of the biggest complaints I hear every summer is how cold it is inside. We keep the temperature set at a constant 72 degrees year-round. Could you please remind people that for the comfort and safety of those who are cooking and serving that it needs to be slightly cooler inside? Please bring a sweater for your comfort. Even 72 degrees is not cool enough when you're working in a restaurant. -- HOT IN NEW PARIS, OHIO

DEAR HOT: People in the service industry need respect. They don't make alot, and they work harder than you for less money. Give them a break. They're running around with hot food and going in and out of steaming kitchens. If you're cold wear a sweater, or light a small fire at your table.